Newsweek-Child Psychologist Reveals the 4 Common Phrases Parents Should Never Say

Outlet: Newsweek

Published: October 18, 2025 · Family & Parenting

In this feature, I walk through four everyday lines that undercut calm—and offer script swaps that validate feelings, set clear boundaries, and cue follow-through without power struggles.

4 quick swaps

• Instead of “You’re fine,” say: “I see you’re feeling nervous—let’s…” (name it + next step)

• Instead of “You’re so smart,” say: “I saw how hard you worked on that.” (process > label)

• Instead of a flat “No,” say: “This isn’t an option right now—let’s plan for the weekend.” (boundary + timeline)

• Instead of “You never listen,” say: “I need your attention for five seconds.” (clear, time-bound ask)

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